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The 5 Elements Of The Mind

A short preview of the book in progress, by author Candice Gopilan, and the Teacher's quotes and original ideas, will be featured in various articles, including this one.

There is a thought process, unknown to many, which involves science and philosophy. This method is to arrive with a rational thought and decision, before taking any action, and it is called the Rational Thinking Process. Rational thinking involves the use of 5 essential elements, called the Elements Of The Mind. The simple way to put this is to think about the concept of body and soul, in thought processing, the brain acts as the body, and the mind is its soul. The brain does the functions, while the mind does the brain's thinking, too complicated? Read on...

First thing to remember is that a normal person, ideally has 5 senses, sense of sight, touch, smell, hearing and taste. If any of these 5 senses is not functioning correctly, there will be a hindrance to the thought process, however, the extraordinary ability of a person is to compensate for their lack, and make their available resource adequate, even exceeds expectations, to some point. Say for instance, a blind man, who is able to navigate his way home by mastery of elevating his other senses, making his sense of hearing, touch and smell extremely heightened, that we watch in awe as he finds his way.

When one's basic senses fail them, he must choose whether to be handicapped, or work around his stumbling blocks. In the thought process, one must decide whether to be satisfied with his normal method of thinking, or he can choose to explore the possibilities, be rational and be intelligent. How does one do this? We begin by talking about the Elements Of The Mind:

1. The Element Of Feel - This is the first thought process of the MIND, I repeat, not the brain. This element has everything to do with your emotions. When an information or data is received by any or all of our 5 senses, the neurons send the signal to the brain, and thus begin the thought process. First thing to do to correctly follow the Rational Thinking method is to control your emotions, and acknowledge that when you think about something, our brain will tell us how we feel about that thought or data. The details shall be included in my next article. Basically, learn how to hold that thought when it first enters your mind, and control your emotions before you act or even speak.

2. The Element Of Think - When we filter our thoughts first, and receive the data for processing, after we hold it and analyze our Feel element, or emotions, we can begin now to think and use our available resources, such as our intellect, education, experience, outside factors or references. The second step towards thinking rationally is to think and analyze, with our given tools.

3. The Element Of Perception - After the 2 process of controlling emotions, thinking and analyzing, we now move on to the the 3rd element, which is to perceive. Perception is not to be like fortune tellers who make guesses, no. When we apply the Element Of Perception, we need to think about the cause and effect of every thought or action. If we master this, we will be able to tell how to act or react, and even think correctly, for every given situation. Be patient as there are more to come on my next articles.

4. The Element Of Reasoning - This is when we reason with ourselves and analyze whether our feeling, thinking and perceiving are correct and synchronized. There are matters to consider, other than our own thoughts and actions. We reason with ourselves, to make sure we make the right decision. We make sure that we are being sensible and reasonable according to our objective, and weighing the matters at hand, which should consider our own well being, and the others involved.

5. The Element Of Will - The final step towards thinking rationally. Our will to do action, to speak, should be towards our own good and the good of the others involved. Our thoughts, words and actions should be beneficial, not only to ourselves, but to those concerned as well. The correct way to think is to think correctly. When one idea is beneficial to everyone concerned, not just temporarily, but should be able to follow thru, then we now know that we have a rational thought that may require action.

After this thought process,we may now explore the 6th Element, which is Inspiration. A whole new ball game, and will be dealt with in a different time. For now, practice the 5 elements, don't worry, as this should not take that long, although it seems like a lot to do for just thinking and deciding, but when you get the hang of it, it should be as instant as cursing, lol.

By: Crystal Forest / Rottencandy
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How To Forgive Someone Who Has Caused You So Much Pain

Practising Rational Thinking in relationships...

Forgiveness Is Powerful. You'll find that when you let your heart speak, and overcome your anger, you will start becoming a better person, and you will make the other person realize how sorry they were, and that you both equally deserve a chance to start anew. Learn how to forgive somebody you loved but has done something to hurt you.

For someone I haven't regarded as a significant character in my plot lately, someone I haven't spoken to for a long time, he was brave, and admirable. I'm talking about my former mentor, turned enemy, turned into my mentor again, after a conversation about forgiveness. I wouldn't call it much of a conversation, since I held my tongue and listened to the wisdom he has to impart, but yes it was a great conversation.

We eventually patched things up, and because he was my mentor, it wasn't hard for me to forget the past. So one evening, we talked about forgiving someone who had given me so much pain, someone that I love very deeply, that I swore never to give that person a chance to re-enter my life. I actually started talking about how I hate this person, and how hurt I was. My mentor listened, and started to give me what I really needed. Here are the things he said that helped me heal my own wounds and made me capable of forgiving:

"The first thing to do when you're angry is to keep quiet, the last thing you want to do is to speak" 

Which I think is the hardest to do when you're really angry and you need to vent it out. My way to release my anger is to blabber, but when you're furious, you wouldn't want to add to the fuel and create irreparable damage by speaking your mind. My mentor clarified that the objective is to think, and by keeping quiet, not opening your mouth, you allow yourself to think and to contemplate.

"Be the better person"

This is to stop natural human nature to take over and urge you to retaliate or get even. Be the better person by not committing the same unacceptable, intolerable and infuriating acts someone did, to hurt and anger you. Even though some things were done deliberately, you don't need to stoop down to that level and repeat the same deeds you hated and caused you so much pain.

"Look in the mirror"

And by this, he means look at yourself and look at what you've done which may have contributed to the other party hurting you. This is a talent I have for as long as I can remember, as I am quick to realize my own mistakes and be remorseful for my wrong doings. Meditating and thinking about the things that you have said or done is not martyrdom, and it doesn't mean you're trying to justify the other one's fault, but rather to reduce the pain and anger by accepting your own faults and errors. This is the key to understanding the other person.

"Time heals all wounds"

Cliche, I know, but it works. I know the feeling of hearing these words at the peak of one's anger, and it wouldn't make sense then, as personally, I swore never to forgive the person who has done something that caused me so much sorrow and loneliness. But I listened, and gave myself and the other person enough time, distance and space, and indeed, we were able to forgive each other.

And last but the most important of all is "Love and concern"

To let your love and your concern for the other person overpower your rage and your ill intentions will make the process of forgiveness easier and more heartfelt. This method is so effective, and will give you a different perspective on forgiving people. We often look for reasons and cause to give people second chances, and it's not healthy as we only focus on the things that we want to see.

Once you decide to forgive and try to give the other person a chance, try to remember the times when you love that person dearly, when you cared for this person, this way you will recall the good times, appreciate the other person, empathize with their feelings, and become sincere in your effort to forgive. When you allow your good nature to take over and understand the other person for the sake of love, you won't have to go thru the process of looking for reasons to pardon that person's hurtful deeds, save yourself the trouble and further pain, and start to overcome your anger and renew the bond that was lost.

Remember that you are not only trying to forgive someone who has hurt you because you can't live without them, but you're also doing this for yourself, and realizing that loving and caring is far better than being angry, hurt and regretful. Give yourself and your loved one the gift of forgiveness. You'll find that each passing day after you decided to head to the path of love and understanding, you have made the right decision for yourself and for the person you forgave.




By: Crystal Forest
Candice Gopilan
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